Question by Lucy: Can please give me advice on how to be the best advocate for my mom who has just been diagnosed with?
pancreatic cancer. The doctors believe it is operable and that it has not affected the blood vessels at this time. I want to know how to go to bat for her, help her make decisions, help my dad, and stay strong. I do feel Gods hand on my shoulder guiding me through.
Thank you so much for your help.
Answer by J B
You go with her to all of her appointments so that you know exactly what the doctors are telling her. You research this condition and become very, very knowledgeable about this condition and it’s treatment options – you can start with WebMd.com and MayoClinic.com which are two of the most trusted medical websites for laypersons. Ask questions of her doctors when you don’t understand the medical terms or ramifications of a procedure/treatment. Talk with both your mother and father after doctor appointments to make sure they have an understanding of what the advice given means to them and what they understand. Clear, open communication between the 3 of you and understanding of what is to come will get all of you through this difficult time. And, when you think you can’t do it anymore, reach out to a cancer support group.
Add your own answer in the comments!